During the reign of Kangxi in the Qing Dynasty, there was a bachelor named Zhang Ying. One day, Zhang Ying received a letter from her family saying that in order to fight for a three foot wide homestead, her family had a dispute with her neighbors and asked him to use his authority to dredge up relations and win the lawsuit.
Zhang Ying smiled at the letter and wrote a letter with a poem
"Thousands of miles of books are only for walls, and what about letting him three feet?
The Great Wall is still in the world, and the Emperor Qin Shihuang is missing. "
After receiving the letter, the family offered to give up the three foot homestead. Neighbors saw, also actively let go, finally, this became a six lane, this turn the story of the Gan Ge into silk has been spread to this day.
Life is not a battlefield, it doesn't need to be higher.
Between people, more understanding will be less misunderstanding;
Between heart and heart, more tolerance will be less dispute.
Don't comment on a person with your own eyes and cognition, judge the right and wrong of a thing.
Don't ask others to share your views, and don't expect others to fully understand you,
Everyone has his own character and opinion.
People often see themselves too much to be in need and lose, feel that others must understand themselves.
In fact, people should look down on themselves, less self, more transposition, can heart life happiness.
How big is the heart, how much happiness is; The more inclusive, the more you get.
Don't say people behind, don't care about being said.
No one can say nothing, the better the person will be said.
There is no thing that is not commented on, and no one who is not commented on.
We can't control the mouth of others, but we can hold a calm heart to see all the troubles.
Only when the heart is quiet can we hear the sound of everything, and the essence of everything can be seen only when the heart is clear.
Settle down your heart and observe the changes of the situation.
To get along with people, we need to pay attention to the way and method.
Some things, need to bear, do not anger; Some people, let it go, don't look.
What's wrong with eating some of his mouth, let him three points.
Everyone needs to be respected, everyone is eager to be understood.
The depth of water is silent. Learn to calm down temperament, learn to resist anger and face dissatisfaction.
Everything can not be too precise, too precise and road free; Treat people not too hard, too strict without friends.
Understand to give up, only show atmosphere; Knowing tolerance, we can show the scale.
The shorter you are, the less you can hide, the shorter the hiding is; The longer you are, the less you can raise.
Don't dazzle when you are proud, and don't be discouraged when you lose. Flowers are not a hundred days red, people do not decline.
Three by luck, seven by yourself, and good for hard work, and do your best.
The result is not the ultimate goal, the process of experience, is the most true understanding.